Food For Thought: When Relationships End

What happens when relationships no longer serves the greater good in our lives? Sometimes we are able to extricate ourselves from those relationships in an easy manner, and other times those relationships will end with drama and pain.

But, even when a relationship ends with drama and pain, there is a still a way to redeem that rough ending, by making the choice to wish the other person well in the future. It’s not always easy to feel that way after your feelings have been hurt, but, I guarantee it is a much healthier way to move on, than carrying about anger, hurt and pain.

Anger, hurt and pain over failed relationships can drag us down. Holding on to grudges create toxic energy in our bodies that can manifest in a host of different physical and emotional symptoms.  Continue reading

Quote of Day: The Dalai Lama

I recently had my trust and warm-heartedness taken advantage of by an old friend who did not understand these concepts… This speaks to me. Despite what I went through my warm-heartedness has not faltered…

We live in a materialistic world that pays insufficient attention to human values. We seek satisfaction in material things instead of warm-heartedness. But human beings are social animals. We need friendship and that depends on trust. Building trust requires concern for others and defending their rights, not doing them harm. Friendship is directly linked to warm-heartedness, which is also good for our physical health. ~ His Holiness The Dalai Lama



Daily Affirmations: Be the Best Person That I Can Be

Today I am reminded that life is short. I am here on this Earth to give love, show respect, honor the endeavors of all people, elevate and not tear down my friends and family, show and embody compassion, accept things as they are, and be the best person that I can be on every given day. And so it is…

immature redtailed hawk

Namaste… Pamela

Letting Go or Holding On: Part Three

Letting Go and Holding On is a four-part short memoir essay, which is part of a larger creative non-fiction project that I am working on…

Part Three:

There are times when you meet someone and you just know there is a connection that goes beyond the norm. You feel this person deeply; you connect with them not as meeting a new friend but as though you have known this person all your life. Sometimes that soul connection is just a brief stop in the trajectory of your life, sometimes they are gone within an instant and sometimes they haunt you, leaving you feeling as though whatever the business was you had with them, they left you and the work is not complete. And so it was that I felt this connection with someone I had no business feeling anything for. He was unavailable on a multitude of levels, and in my heart of hearts, I could not let go of that feeling that he would be back for me one day.

The ultimate Cinderella fantasy, waiting for the white knight to return. But this one was not a white knight by any sense of the imagery or emotion. Oh no, he was a long, lean, agile, dark knight built for speed, riding a gleaming black Harley Davidson. Yes, he was agile and self-possessed yet the self-doubt he possessed could be seen in the corner of his heart space that lay open to my empathic feelers. That and his wry, ironic wit that seemed most prevalent to the unvarnished eye that overlooked the myriad of problems he possessed. Not run of the mill problems, oh no. One could not be so lucky. He was the epitome of the wounded bird. All the more desirable to the healer in me who saw him as someone who needed to be healed, someone who needed to be loved.

I remember when we first met as neighbors, I thought “Oh, a biker. I hope he’s quiet.” The connection did not happen at first. You know how that goes. You pick up a rock on the ground and you feel the weight in your hand. It feels off, you toss it back to the ground. However, something calls you to pick that rock up again, because you saw something in that rock. You realize as you look it over again that it is shaped like a heart. You say, “I need this rock. It belongs in my collection of heart shaped rocks.” These are the hearts of stone. The ones, who slipped, rolled or tumbled out of my life, rarely quietly, most oft they would tumult out of my life like an avalanche.

The hearts of stone are all smooth operators. Fine earthly matter shaped and molded by millennia of natural geological forces. These were the eternal hearts of stone. Most often, it felt like these were the only hearts I ever attracted. And I clung to those hearts of stone, packing them all into boxes; I took those hearts of stone with me each time I moved. They carried a weight heavier than in ounces, they weighed on my heart with all of the magnitude of lost and unrequited love.

Stay tuned for Part Four


Daily Affirmations: To Be Empowered

To be empowered, I affirm with gratitude in my heart for all that there is in my life. My life is rich with the love of my dearest family members and friends. My life is rich with the opportunities and abundance that I make for myself and that present themselves to me via the Universe. I celebrate with joy these things, and understand the flow of the cycles of all that there is, for it is like the river constantly changing. Today is a good day. I claim it as such. And so it is…

sunset at point shore

Namaste… Pamela

Daily Affirmations: Simply Enjoy Life

Today, I re-mind myself that even in the midst of a stack of to-do’s it is important to take time for me, and schedule a little fun into my life with friends. It is important to take time out from even the busiest of schedules to relax and laugh with friends and simply enjoy life rather than allow it to blow by on the winds. Sometimes, being in the moment requires taking time for me. The value of “me time” can never be underscored.

purple marsh grass

Namaste… Pamela